Bondage Guide

The Dos and Do-“Knots” of Tying Up Your Caged Man!

Even if he’s been trained to be your obedient chastity slave for years and years, we all know that your locked up guy might slip up. He might try to push his limits, look for a loophole in your contract or even straight up break the rules which you, his keyholder, have so kindly and fairly set for him.


And what is the most common way in which our bad little chastity slaves will try to defy your authority?


Of course, by trying to touch their cocks. Whether it’s desperately trying to fit his fingers through the bars of a Put a Ring On It or Eyes On Her Prize model or attempting to sneak in a few strokes while he’s unlocked for cage cleaning, we all know that even the most devoted of slaves will occasionally have his naughty moments.


Luckily there is a quick and relatively simple solution which can totally deny him all access to his chaste cock, even when his cage is removed. This fun little technique makes both a great punishment for disobedient chastity pets and a naughty way to spice up your tease and denial sessions.


And just what is this simple, practically foolproof method?


Tying your man up, of course!


Tying up a guy – alternately referred to as bondage – will leave his arms, legs, or both restrained so that he cannot attempt to access his cock, balls, asshole, or any other sensitive area of his body in any way. Even better, bondage is flexible, versatile and offers so many fun, sexy options to experiment with.


If you don’t have a lot of time and just need to give his cage a quick cleaning, you can opt for a simple rope or scarf bound around his wrists. If you instead want to set up an elaborate tease and denial scenario that will leave him trembling on the edge of an ultimately futile orgasm for hours, you can invest in something fancier like a full harness or a set of limb spreaders.


Although bondage and chastity are frequently associated with one another, and restraints play a major role in a lot of chastity-centered pornography, written observation and fiction, tying up your man is not a requirement for a successful male chastity centered lifestyle. Make sure to keep open and thorough communication between keyholder and chastity slave so that both (or all) are on the same page regarding what they are or are not interested in trying.


If you’re new to tying up your man, or are simply looking for some new and creative ideas to spice up your bedroom play, you’ve come to the right place! We’ll briefly run through the most commonly used materials for bondage and then give you some suggestions for bondage positions or scenarios which pair especially well with male chastity!

Common Bondage Materials

When it comes to bondage, the sky is pretty much the limit. The general rule is – if it can be tied, you can tie him up with it. However, certain materials have become more popular than others for use in bondage play. These are both safe and easy to use as well as effective in creating a wide variety of elaborate roleplays or games.


If you and/or your chastity slave are new to bondage, us folks here at Lock the Cock highly recommend starting out with one of the options listed below:


Around the House

Scarves, pantyhose, belts and other household items are a great option if you want to give bondage a try but aren’t quite sure it’s something you are going to regularly add to your sex life. You can experiment without having to spend any additional cash!


If you’re just starting out, we recommend using a soft item such as a silk scarf or a pair of nylon hose. Later on, if you’re interested in adding pain or discomfort to your play, you can choose rougher-textured items such as leather belts.


Household items are also, surprisingly, the easiest way to introduce degradation and humiliation play along with bondage. Have your chaste slave tied up with a pair of your well-worn hose, socks, or even panties! He’ll be tormented by your erotic, arousing scent but, of course, be just as unable to have an orgasm as ever thanks to his cock cage. Lock the Cock pro tip: gently used panties make a GREAT impromptu gag if your chastity sub gets too whiny or mouthy!

Rope: A Classic Choice

Rope is probably the most common and widely used bondage implement worldwide. From simple wrist restraints to complicated and elegant Japanese shibari setups (see the sections below to learn more!) rope is extremely versatile and can be used in practically any scenario that you could imagine.


If you prefer a gentler, less pain-focused session, you can buy dedicated bondage rope, usually made of cotton, silk, or soft polyester, from sex shops online. Alternately, you can purchase rope at a variety of hardware and gardening stores worldwide.


However, we do recommend avoiding ultra-thin ropes such as kite string, as they can potentially present the risk of cutting off the sub’s blood circulation during extended bondage play. A good rule to follow is to avoid anything smaller than 0.6mm (approximately 0.03 inches) in thickness.

All Taped Up

Bondage tape is a particular type of tape usually sold only in sex shops or sex-focused online stores. Rather than having one “sticky’ and one “non-sticky” side, the tape in fact only sticks to itself. This means that it can safely be used to tie up your chastity slave without any risk of getting caught on or tearing his skin or hair. Bondage tape is perfect for tying up the sensitive areas on or around his genitals without risking any damage to delicate pubic hair!


Here at Lock the Cock, we absolutely adore bondage tape. Every single keyholder on staff tends to keep a roll in his or her kit at all times. We recommend this as the number one purchase a chastity couple interested in bondage should make. As a bonus, bondage tape often comes in a wide range of exciting colors, from the more traditional black and white to bright neons, shiny metallics or even patterns such as leopard print!


Harnessing Your Desires

Leather straps and belts are usually used as the component parts for more elaborate bondage rigs such as harnesses. It is recommended that you purchase these rather than trying to make your own at home unless you have significant experience in leatherworking skills.


Harnesses and other leather bondage materials are popular due to a combination of elegant yet sexual aesthetic and extreme customizability. A harness can have any number of straps that you desire, and those straps can be located anywhere on or around your slave’s body.


Of course, as the keyholder and Goddess, it’s entirely up to you! Does your chastity slave have a particularly sensitive or erogenous area of his body? Don’t forget to put a strap there! Of course, you can also include leather bindings around his cock and balls to remind him exactly who he belongs to.


Leather bondage implements are also one of the most common methods of incorporating other fetishes into your tied-up play. There are plenty of options for reminding your slave of his submissive role. For example, you could acquire a leather collar and matching chain leash to engage in some pet play, or a bridle and reins setup to take your favorite pony for a ride.


Please, Officer! Don’t Forget the Handcuffs!


Handcuffs are beloved by many due to the associations with imprisonment, crime and punishment, and roleplay scenarios featuring a domineering authority figure and a helpless, submissive captive. Personally, our locked employees here at Lock the Cock love handcuffs because the feeling of cold metal against their wrists and ankles goes perfectly with the constant similar feeling against their tightly caged cocks!


If you and your partner have not experimented with handcuffs before, we recommend starting out with padded or fuzzy cuffs or perhaps easy-open ones. We’re especially fond of padded or fuzzy cuffs not only because the soft interior eliminates any risk of chafing the wrists or ankles, but the fluffy materials and light colors – such as sissy pastel pink! – are a great way to remind your chastity slave of how wimpy and feminine he is. See here for other ways to humiliate him!


The Whole Darn System


If you’re looking for something even more elaborate, check out bondage systems or installations. These refer to any sort of mechanism or series of hooks/ropes which turns an area of your home – or personal dungeon! – into a ready-to-go location where you can quickly tie your chaste man up with little time or effort involved.


The most common and straightforward type of bondage rig is an under-bed system, in which bars are run underneath the bed so that your chastity slave can be tied up spread-eagled on top of the mattress. More complicated examples include balance rigs, which force the sub to stand on their tiptoes, on one leg, or another similar uncomfortable, unsteady positions, and suspension rigs, which lift their bound body off of the ground entirely.


Bondage systems can sometimes be expensive when compared to the other materials listed in this section. However, you can also make your own homemade systems. One simple example is to tie your chastity slave to an open door, meaning that their sensitive bits will be tugged on whenever the door is closed. Another is to use towel hooks, such as those found in bathrooms or showers, to tie your sub’s hands high above his head and force him to stand on tiptoes. (Cheap over-the-door towel hooks can be found at most home or bath goods stores.)


For Those Who Want Something A Bit More…

If bondage has been an element of your male chastity relationship for quite a while and you’re looking to spice things up, why not try a more “extreme” setup such as a full enclosure suit (aka “gimp suit”), sleep sack or vacuum bed?


These toys, which are usually made from latex, are designed to cover the sub’s body entirely, meaning that they cannot make even the slightest movement. We think that these are a great option if your sub has been particularly bad and deserves an extra mean punishment!


While gimp suits and similar full-enclosure bondage gear tends to be on the expensive side when compared to other materials, they make up for it by being extremely customizable. You can add options such as holes, flaps or zippers on any part of the suit, providing you access to any part of your chastity partner’s body – including his pathetic little cock, whether locked or free – while of course completely denying him the same privileges!


Spread ‘Em, Slut!

The last commonly used bondage implement is perhaps the cruelest: the spreader. As its name suggests, a spreader is a long metal bar which is used to force a tied up individual to spread their arms or legs far apart. You can even purchase an adjustable spreader which can force his limbs to a wide range of distances. Because the bar is made of solid metal, rather than chain or rope, it is equally impossible to resist and to escape.


We definitely recommend the use of spreaders when you are punishing your chastity slave for disobedience. Force his legs far, far apart and then torture and tease his locked up cock with his inability to get an erection or have an orgasm. If you caught him sneakily trying to touch his cock, add a spreader between his wrists. His arms will be so sore, painful and exhausted for so long afterwards that he won’t even be able to think about sneaking a touch for weeks to come!


Bondage Accessories

Of course, it’s not just about the ropes, scarves or whatever else you’re using to tie your chaste partner’s arms or legs. A key part of bondage is using your sub’s tied body to create a sexy image, an artistic portrait of eroticism – of course, entirely for your own appreciation and enjoyment, rather than his!


A great way to get the maximum possible enjoyment from the sight of your bound, locked up partner is to add a variety of accessories to make the experience even more fun for you – and less fun for him. We already briefly mentioned leather collars in an earlier section of this article. However, some other commonly used bondage accessories include:


  • Gags, in particular ball gags which force the mouth to remain uncomfortably open. He’ll be too tired and sore to talk back to you, or do anything other than obey your every command, after a play session with one of those!

  • Blindfolds reinforce that you are the one in control by taking away his sight and denying him the ability to see, know or predict the ways in which you are going to torture, tease and deny him next. In addition, sensory deprivation play enthusiasts claim that his other senses, especially touch will become more sensitive as a result of the loss of sight!

  • Earplugs, earmuffs, or over-the-ear headphones can further enhance the sensory deprivation experience. After all, he won’t be able to tense up in anticipation of a strike from your favorite whip or crop if he can’t even hear it coming! His reactions will be so much more genuine and sudden – and, of course, extremely erotic for you to watch.

  • Bondage hoods can combine both of the above items for the ultimate sensory deprivation session. Your chaste slave will be completely unable to see OR hear – but he will certainly be able to feel every teasing touch his Goddess deigns to grant to his body!

  • And, of course, like all types of chastity play, we recommend having your partner dress up for you. Help him pick out a nice feminine outfit – maybe a French maid or nurse’s costume, or even one of your own dresses. Don’t forget to add a nice pair of lace or silk panties worn on top of his tiny, caged cock!

Chastity Focus: Cock and Ball Bondage


There are so, so many things which can be done with bondage. The number of ways and positions in which you can tie up your man, as well as the materials which you can use to do so, are practically infinite.


However, in this article we are going to focus on those types and methods of bondage which pair best with male chastity. After all, a shared love for male chastity is the reason we’re all here in the first place, right?


Perhaps you decide to grant your slave the supreme honor of being unlocked from his cage during one particular bondage session. However, you still want to deny him pleasure, and you DEFINITELY want to deny him the opportunity to orgasm. In addition, you feel like he hasn’t been nearly as obedient to you, his Goddess, as he should be lately. So you want the session to include a bit of punishment for him too.

Well, as it turns out, there happens to be a technique which fulfills all of the above requirements – and more!


It’s called cock and ball bondage.

Cock and ball bondage uses common materials – usually rope, cord or scarves – to create a temporary chastity setup. It should not be used long term due to the risk of cutting off blood flow to the penis which can cause pain, numbness and discomfort in the area. However, when used for a short period of time, this type of bondage can be just as effective as a cock cage at preventing erection and orgasm.


The simplest method for this type of bondage is to tie a sturdy cord around the base of the cock. As with other bondage strategies, we recommend using mateiral no thinner than 0.6mm or 0.03 inches to eliminate the risk of reduced blood flow. Communicate with your sub throughout the process. Yes, you are the one in charge, but only he can accurately tell you whether the rope is too tight or too loose. (Of course, you can motivate him to be honest by reminding him of the rewards that come to truthful slaves – and the punishments which lying ones inevitably receive!)


You can also secure the testicles by tying a loop around the top of them, in the same location as the testicle ring featured on most cock cages. You can also separate them by running a rope between them. Many keyholders enjoy utilizing this method as it allows their chastity slave to be tormented by feeling the constant fullness of each individual ball.


While cock and ball bondage may seem very simple and not all that exciting, there are many ways to spice it up. Here at Lock the Cock, some of our favorites include:


  • Tie the balls to something which will tug on them if he moves or adjusts his position in any way. While you can purchase a dedicated setup such as a suspension bondage kit, you can also make an easy DIY rig. For example, tie him to a door so that he will experience discomfort or pain every time it closes. Alternately, bind his balls to a towel hook and force him to stand on tiptoes if he doesn’t want to experience painful upward tugging.

  • Add some leather belt or straps to your bondage ensemble. Fasten one around his waist and run one between his legs so that it completely covers his cock and balls. This will create a simple, easily homemade version of the medieval chastity belt. As such belts were most commonly worn by women, and said women frequently had little choice in the matter, this setup presents a Goddess with the perfect opportunity to humiliate and feminize her obedient slave.

  • Teach him to tie himself up! Because cock and ball bondage is so simple, even the clumsiest of subs can easily learn how to tie the proper knots himself. This will serve as an exercise in discipline and a chance for him to show his devotion to you, his keyholder and Goddess. With his hands so close to his cock, he will be tempted to break the rules and touch himself – you will have to strictly train him not to!

Whether you choose to make it a regular occurrence every time his cage is removed for cleaning or keep it an occasional tease for when he needs that extra little reminder of his position, cock and ball bondage is a fantastic tool to introduce into your male chastity relationship!


Bondage Tips and Important Health Reminders


As with all sexual play, chastity-focused or otherwise, it important to play in such a way that all parties involved stay healthy, clean and safe. Sure, you want to tease him and deny him his orgasm, and maybe even cause him a little pain. However, as keyholder, your pet has submitted himself to you completely. This means that it is also your responsibility to check in with him regularly and not put him or his health in any danger.


Like we mentioned earlier, the most important tip to keep in mind when tying him up is to avoid cutting off his circulation. Check in with your partner regularly to make sure that none of his bonds are too tight and that he is not experiencing any numbness or loss of feelings in his limbs.


In addition, avoid placing any ropes or straps above open wounds or sores. The friction caused by ropes rubbing against his skin can worsen existing cuts and slow down the healing process significantly.


In case of pain, injury or any other emergency, make sure to keep a means of freeing him from his bonds nearby at all times. For most materials, including ropes, scarves, straps and bondage tape, a pair of strong scissors will suffice. However, if you are using handcuffs or spreaders, always keep the key in the same room that you are playing in. You may also wish to make or purchase additional copies or any handcuff / spreader keys – you can even wear them around your neck to tease him a little, just like the keys to his cock cage!


Lastly, if at all possible, never leave your bound sub unattended. Of course, if you need to use the restroom or otherwise leave the room briefly, you can do so. However, you should not leave him alone for any longer than that. Regular communication to gauge his mental and physical condition is important for any and all bondage play activities. Leaving him alone runs the risk that he will experience numbness, discomfort or pain, or even ultimately lose consciousness.


Bondage Positions to Pair with Chastity


Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, it’s time to move on to the most fun part of this article – the positions! The number of positions in which you can bind your partner is pretty much infinite. The only limits are your own creativity and imagination.


But, if you need some ideas for how to get started, we’ve got your back! We’re going to give you a brief list of bondage positions which work well for a chaste male with a cage locked around his cock. We hope that they will provide you with plenty of exciting ideas to spice up your male chastity games!


Spread ‘Em Even Wider!


Here at Lock the Cock, we believe in the old saying “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it!” So, of course, we just couldn’t skip mentioning one of the most classic and enduring bondage positions of all time.


We’re talking, of course, about the spread eagle.


“Spread eagle” refers to any position in which the sub’s legs and arms are forced wide apart. This position is so beloved because it leaves all of his sensitive parts and holes completely exposed and open for your use. Want to play with his ass? Make him pleasure you with his mouth? Run your finger slowly up and down his caged or bound cock? You have all of these options and more with a spread-eagled man. It works especially well for chaste men, as they cannot shift or move or curl in on themselves to prevent you from teasing their cock as much as you want.


The easiest way to spread-eagle your partner is to bind him to a bed, using either the headboard and footboard or, if your bed lacks these add-ons, a special under-the-bed bondage rig (discussed in the sections above). A futon or clean section of floor may also work.


However, you can also force him into this position while standing up. Tie his arms above his head and his feet apart. You do not need to purchase a specialized setup for this. You can tie him to a combination of sturdy household items such as chairs or tables for the feet and towel hooks, light fixtures or cabinet doors for the hands.


Men Are Pigs – And You Should Remind Him Of That!

 

Another classic bondage position is known as the hog-tie. As its name suggests, it was inspired by the methods used to tie up pigs before they were slaughtered. Hog-tying is a great way to bind up your male chastity slave because it is extremely humiliating. He is quite literally being dehumanized, reduced to a position and situation directly inspired by an animal. Not to mention, as we hinted in the title to this section, you can add in plenty of degrading dirty talk by comparing him explicitly to a pig!


The standard version of hog-tying involves tying the wrists and ankles together behind the back. This will result in the sub being completely unable to move or even roll over under his own power without experiencing extreme pain and discomfort. He will be forced to lie on his stomach, his caged cock desperately seeking friction against the bed or floor, as you play with his ass or any other part of his helplessly tied up body.


A Zoo’s Worth of Animal Positions

Several variations on the standard hog-tie exist to spice up your scenario even further. Binding all four limbs together in front of the body, instead of behind, creates the fetal position – another classic option for humiliation and degradation play. Like the standard hog tie, it gives him the option to attempt – but inevitably fail – to seek out friction against his pitiful caged cock.


Tying the wrists to the thighs instead of the ankles and forcing the legs apart is known as frog-tying, and allows for even more deliciously dehumanizing animal comparisons. It is particularly uncomfortable in the long term, so it’s also a great option for S&M or any other pain-focused play.


Last in our veritable menagerie of animal-themed bondage positions is the shrimp tie, alternately known as ebi due to its Japanese origins. This is a slightly more complicated position – in fact, it gets its name from the curled shape of a delicious shrimp – but the discomfort and humiliation experienced by your sub will be absolutely exquisite.


First, have him sit in a cross-legged position. Bind his ankles together with his knees spread wide apart. If you think that he will be disobedient and try to press his knees together, you can use a spreader or additional rope to keep them apart. Next, bind his wrists securely behind his back. Finally, loop a LOOSE but secure rope around his neck and connect it to the bonds securing his ankles.


This position is absolutely perfect for a chastity slave who needs to be reminded of his place. He is forced to look down at the floor the entire time that he is bound – because he is not even remotely worthy of looking upon the form of his Goddess! For an extra level of teasing and mental torment, switch his cock cage for simple ropes or even free it entirely. He won’t be able to touch it or even grant it the slightest amount of friction, but he’ll certainly spend the entire time desperately trying and failing.


Your Little Work of Art

In the previous section, we mentioned that the shrimp bondage position originally came from Japan. As a matter of fact, Japan has made several important contributions to the world of bondage. It is the home country of a particular style of bondage alternately known as either kinbaku or shibari.


The idea behind shibari is to use bondage to create an aesthetically appealing, artistic image using the arrangement of ropes on the subject’s body. Typically, this involves creating a rope harness featuring a series of elaborate knots which rub teasingly against all of your sub’s most sensitive spots.


Shibari is extremely customizable, allowing you to tie up your slave in any way you want. For example, a “standard” setup might include knots up and down the chest with the hands bound behind the back and the legs forced into a kneeling position. If you are not confident in your knot work, you can also purchase premade shibari harnesses, usually made from soft rope.


Sure, shibari-style bondage is extremely attractive to look at. But what about it makes it particularly suited for sexual play centered around male chastity? Well, here at Lock the Cock, we personally think it makes a great starting point for a type of bondage scenario which turns your submissive partner into a living sex doll.


How does that work, exactly? Well, first, as we mentioned, the shibari bondage turns him into a beautiful image which exists only for you to enjoy and appreciate. At the same time, this reminds him that his body – including his caged cock and its rare orgasms – exists only for your pleasure. You can reinforce this with frequent dirty talk and “forced,” unpleasurable ruined orgasms or a torturous prostate milking session.


This is a central idea behind male chastity which is so often ignored or forgotten. He is your toy. He is your property. You can do whatever you want with him at any time, and he gets no input. He belongs to you, and bringing some shibari into the bedroom is the perfect way to make sure that he never forgets that fact!


Keep Him In Suspense


Possibly the most complex position included in this article, suspension bondage refers to any position which lifts his bound body entirely off the ground. Because of the higher risk involved with this type of bondage, it is recommended that you purchase a professionally made suspension rig if you intend to engage in full-body suspension.


The number one appeal of suspension bondage – and the reason why we’ve included it on this chastity-focused list of positions – is the complete and total loss of control which the sub experiences while entering a state of ultimate vulnerability. Sounds very similar to the central principle behind male chastity, the reason why you and your partner might have engaged in such play in the first place, doesn’t it?


You’ve taken that last, tiny bit of control and stability away from him by literally removing his feet from the firm ground beneath him. He must remain completely still to avoid swinging around like a pendulum – but of course, at any time, the tiniest push from you can be enough to undo his hours of effort and send him into free swinging motion. For extra fun, pair a suspension session with a blindfold and earplugs for him to increase his sense of disorientation and disconnect.


Of course, like many of the other types of bondage listed in this guide, suspension bondage is extremely customizable. Perhaps you can hang up your chaste slave horizontally, leaving his ass temptingly open for a spanking while his caged cock dangles pathetically below him. Or you could try out a vertical suspension – all of the blood will drain down towards his cock, but his cage will leave him just as unable as ever to get an erection. How torturous!


What a Nasty Predicament!


The very last type of bondage we are going to discuss in this handy guide is something known as predicament bondage. Recently, predicament bondage has grown significantly in popularity due to its unique, delicious blend of complexity and eroticism.


In general, the term predicament bondage refers to any scenario in which the bound individual must remain in a certain position, usually an uncomfortable and/or painful one, in order to avoid some sort of greater pain or punishment. (Think of the setups used for physical challenges on reality TV shows such as Survivor or Fear Factor, or a less violent version of the traps found in the Saw film franchise.)


We get it. That’s a pretty vague description. It’s hard to accurately describe predicament bondage without providing concrete examples. So that’s exactly what we’re going to do! Here are some sexy, enticing ideas that can help you get started with crafting your very own predicament for your male chastity slave:


  • Tie his hands above his head. Place painful, “spiky” objects such as hairbrushes, small rocks, Lego toys, or pinecones underneath the heels of his feet. This will force him to remain balanced on his toes. If he loses his balance, he will experience immediate pain in his feet from stepping on the spiky objects
  • Bind his legs apart and his hands behind his back. Then, command him to hold a small object (such as a coin) against the wall using only his nose. He will be forced to maintain an uncomfortable position for as long as possible in order to fulfill his Mistress’s command. Of course, once he inevitably fails and the object falls, you get to administer the punishment of your choice!

These are some simple, homemade, easy to set up examples of predicament bondage scenarios. However, increasingly, sex toy companies have begun to create and sell rigs and machines which allow for elaborate predicament bondage in your own home. Because of the huge range of options available, we recommend looking around online with your partner to pick out the perfect setup to tease and torment him!


Predicament bondage pairs well with chastity because it allows you to tie his performance in the scenarios you craft to his chastity timer. Encourage him to stay in each predicament for as long as possible in order to win the chance to have the time until his next orgasm reduced. Of course, if he fails, he gets to experience the one of a kind sinking feeling as that release slips further and further away! (See here to learn more about games that might add or remove time from his chastity timer).


For extra fun, you might incorporate physical chastity-related items, such as the key to his cage, into your predicaments. Force him to balance the key on his nose or chin, for example, or send him on a scavenger hunt for it around the house with his wrists bound firmly behind his back!


It can also be quite erotic to combine this type of bondage with other kinks and fetishes. For example, you can add sensation play by dripping wax or ice cold water on his chest while he is tightly bound. Put a weight on top of his stomach to create a watersports themed predicament – make him hold his need to “go” for hours on end while tightly tied up! The options for unique and sexy fun are quite literally endless.


Something For Everyone!

You don’t have to engage in bondage to have a successful male chastity relationship with your partner. However, many chastity fans all around the world find that it pairs so very nicely with a little bit of tying your man up. Whether it’s frequent, elaborate predicament scenarios or the occasional quick bind while you clean out his cage, bondage can serve both practical and sexual purposes at the exact same time!


As always, our number one Lock the Cock Pro Tip is this: be creative. Your only limits are your own imagination, so don’t be afraid to explore and try new things. Many a pleasurable fantasy has been accidentally discovered simply due to experimentation and an open mind!