Hands-Free Orgasms: Ultimate Chastity Goal or Cheating?
The popular male chastity forums often inspire my articles. And one topic I’ve seen discussed a lot lately is the subject of hands-free orgasms (HFOs) while caged.
It caught my interest because, as with so many aspects of male chastity, there are two clear camps:
Those who believe any sort of climax while caged defeats the purpose.
those who say orgasming while caged—whether of their own doing or given to them by their keyholder—is the ultimate goal.
All of this got me thinking about the way we enjoy chastity, the stimulation we allow and deny ourselves while caged, and the methods we use if we believe hands-free orgasms are okay.
If this whole notion is new to you, then stick around because I’m about to unpick the fiddly details of HFOs.
What Are Hands-Free Orgasms?
A hands-free orgasm is the ability to climax without using hands (your own or anyone else’s) to directly stimulate the penis. For men in chastity it involves staying locked in a cock cage and, from most of the anecdotal evidence I’ve seen, orgasming without ejaculating.
So, if there’s no cock contact and no cum, how exactly are guys achieving their HFOs?
4 Hands-Free Orgasming Techniques (That Are Acceptable to the Caged Community)
Unlocking and sticking your dick into a hands-free sex toy is one way to cum. But the consensus is that if you’re committed to being caged this isn’t the way to do it. There are 4 favored techniques, with each one allowing you to keep your chastity device on.
1: Identify and Stimulate Other Erogenous Zones
Achieving a HFO means not touching the genitals. But you’ll probably need to stimulate other erogenous zones. Never heard of erogenous zones? These are the areas of your body that, when stimulated, make you feel pleasure, become excited, and sometimes even orgasm. Besides the genitals, common erogenous zones include:
The perineum area.
Around the ears and the neck.
The tops of the arms and inner elbows.
The lower stomach above the pubis.
The lower back.
The inner thighs.
Everyone is different, and so you may find some of these erogenous zones more sensitive than others. You may even prefer the stimulation of a completely different part of the body that I haven’t listed. For example, some people love having their armpits kissed and caressed.
Touching these areas with your hands, a vibrator, a feather tickler, material you find pleasing, or massaging lubricant or oil into them, may be enough to bring you orgasm.
2: Tantric Breathing (Orgasmic Breathing)
Breathing is linked to arousal and orgasm. During orgasm we often take short, shallow breaths into our chest and shoulders. This makes our pelvic floor muscles tense, delivering a stronger orgasm.
Learning to build arousal and orgasm through breathing without other stimulation means deepening that breathing (belly breathing) and consciously connecting it with your pelvic floor. I highly recommend picking up a copy of The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams if you’re looking to explore this technique.
3: Stimulate the Mind
One of the most powerful erogenous zones I left off the list in that first technique is the brain. And I did that on purpose. Stimulating the mind to achieve pleasure is way different to how we stimulate other zones. (You could hold a vibrator against your head, but it’s unlikely to have the desired effect.)
Watching porn is an obvious way to stimulate the mind. But it’s not the only way. Audio erotica and guided meditation for sex and arousal can work just as well. They may even be enough for you to achieve a HFO. Try searching for ‘guided arousal meditation’ on YouTube to try it for free and see whether it will work for you.
4: Milking, Pegging, and Anal Orgasms
When we asked the LTC community about HFOs and how they achieve them, our customers revealed their 3 favorite methods.
- Pegging with a strap-on.
- Using a vibrator while being milked.
Enjoying an anal orgasm during solo play is possible. But there’s no doubt that having a partner on hand to help will make anal orgasm easier (mainly because of angles, access, and how far your own fingers can reach).
Yet to discover anal orgasms? Men’s Health has a simple yet effective guide to anal orgasms, which also includes tips for female anal stimulation. If you’ve really got the time to study, try this Kinkly article on how to hit the P-spot using a toy.
The Big Debate: Hands-Free Orgasms, Yes or No?
Knowing how to orgasm without masturbating is all very well. But we need to address the elephant in the room: If you’re locked up, should you be allowed to climax at all?
Men wear cock cages for 2 main reasons:
Whatever your motivation, most of us can agree that being in chastity is about shifting (if not completely removing) the focus on our own pleasure. Instead, we channel that energy into pleasing a partner or other areas of our lives such as our career, our interests, or our health and wellbeing.
‘Wearing a cage gives us back the time we would have spent jacking off or fucking. Finding ways to orgasm and overcome that denial while caged seems to diminish the significance of being free.’
Wearing a cage gives us back the time we would have spent jacking off or fucking. And we’d often do these things because our dick was there and we just could.
Which leads me to my next point.
Abstaining from orgasming while locked makes it all the sweeter when release day finally arrives. Even though those first few days and weeks of being locked up are a mental struggle, once you’re over that hurdle climaxing becomes… well, barely something you think about (at least from my experience). And the longer you go without one, the more intense and special having one becomes (again, from my experience). Finding ways to orgasm and overcome that denial while caged seems to diminish the significance of being free.
That said, those with a keyholder may not have an option. If they’re ordered to orgasm during lockup, or subjected to a ruined orgasm, they have little option. And for these men, I can understand why achieving climax and remaining locked up is such a milestone.
Having researched these HFO techniques, it’s obvious they all require practice. In some cases, a lot of focus is needed. So finally being able to enjoy the best of both worlds—the wondrous sensation of being locked up while still achieving satisfaction without erection or ejaculation—would be an amazing achievement.
But once you’ve learned those techniques, and can get yourself off hands-free, how do you stop yourself from taking advantage of it? That’s what I want to know.
For me, I’ll be sticking with the view that caged time is no-climax time. But what do you think? Add your thoughts and comments to the HFO discussion.