Locking his penis in a chastity cage is a powerful gesture for any man that wants to take on the submissive role in a relationship. It becomes a constant presence in his life, so you’d be forgiven for thinking that the cage is the most important thing in male chastity. But what if I told you it’s not?
Is it the cage that’s really exciting for the slave? Or is it the inability to open it? The desire for his release is one of the most powerful tools in a Mistress’s arsenal, and without this force driving him forward the cage simply becomes another piece of clothing to him.
So surely the key, not the cage, is the most powerful symbol of a man’s commitment to his Mistress.
Let Mistress Guide You… (Contents)
Subtlety Is Key…
Simply taking his key is only the first step though. Putting it somewhere safe and out of sight robs you of all the delightful opportunities to remind him of your power. Like they say: “Out of sight, out of mind”.
But waving it in front of his face at every opportunity also doesn’t help you make use of it’s power. Eventually he’ll just think “yeah, yeah, you have my key, I know”. So finding the perfect balance is an important part of leveraging the power of the key.
One of my favorite ways to do this is to simply make the key a part of your attire. A subtle nod to his predicament that doesn’t scream “I control you”, but reminds him every time his eyes wander over it.
These small gestures might seem insignificant, but you’ll be surprised by the impact just seeing the object of his restriction on a regular basis can have. You also gain the added benefit of people asking questions about the key that always feature on the outfit, and the joy of watching him gasp as he wonders how you’ll answer those questions.
Enshrining Your Control
If accessorizing with his torment isn’t your style, there are still other tasteful ways to put his predicament on show without screaming it from the rooftops. Most of these involve finding a way to display his key with the same importance you would other important aspects of your lives.
My personal favorite is simply mounting it in a photo frame and displaying it above the marital bed. He won’t see it all day, but when he does it’ll be in the room where it hits home the hardest. It’s also pretty convenient for the times you >do want to unlock him.
The core idea here is that we don’t want him to forget the fact that you’re in control. The key is the symbol of this, so giving him the opportunity to see it “organically” throughout the day rather than deliberately showing him makes sure it remains a constant presence in his mind. Over time these gentle reminders will help build his desire, which you can use as a tool to mold and guide him throughout the pledge.
A Tool to Tease
You’ll often find both slaves and Mistresses talking about the art of the tease, and how exciting it can make the experience of wearing a cage. But most of the time this involves strokes, touches, or visual stimulation (like a low cut corset).
This kind of tease is effective, but somewhat crude. Obviously he’s going to get excited if you’re stroking his cage or touching his cock through the gaps.
But once again the key can be used for a much more subtle form of teasing.
Rather than focusing on the overt style of “I’m touching you to get you excited”, instead this kind of tease focuses more on the anticipation. Even something as simple as freezing his key in a large block of ice and making him watch as it melts, knowing that when the key is finally free he can get the pleasure he craves. Watching as each drop of water slides down the side of the ice, desperately hoping for it to melt faster. It’s an excruciating reminder of who’s really in control.
An Embarrassing Reminder…
There are also times where rather than taking away the key, you can get much more out of it by leaving it in his possession. Of course, I’m not suggesting giving him unfettered access to his penis, we all know that’s just setting up your slave for failure.
But leaving it with him in a way that makes it either impossible to access, or impossible to access without you knowing about it can sometimes be even more torturous than taking it away from him.
Just imagine how humiliating it would be for him to have a clear lockbox sat on his desk at work. The key suspended within for all his coworkers to see. The questions he faces will surely leave him squirming, and make sure he never forgets his place beneath you. All without even being near him at all!
Embrace the Power You Hold
Learning to use your power is a key part of becoming the Mistress you aspire to be. It’s more than simply doling out commands and punishments. Exerting your power in subtle ways is a much more memorable gesture that will both keep your slave in line, and empower yourself to take on more and more aspects of dominance.
But it’s not something that will happen overnight, and it’s not something you can simply follow a set of instructions for. Every slave is different, so you’ll need to find your own ways to gently nudge him along on the path you set out before him.
Once you do though, you’ll have him eating out of the palm of your hand…
