The bond between the sissy and the chastity fetish is strong. And while several submissive fetishes complement the locked life, there’s something about sissification and chastity the others can’t touch.
But why is this?
Fellow Lock The Cock writer Charlie Nyx wrote in Probing The Sissy Fetish that both focus on denying and diminishing the penis. A chastity cage stops the wearer from accessing their penis. And if we accept that the penis is a symbol of male power, removing the ability to touch it, show it, or use it, can lessen feelings of manliness.
For some, this is a relief. So much so that they want to take it a step further and explore the gender binary opposite: femininity.
But how that femininity looks can differ from one sissy to the next.
From Subtle Sissification to All-Out Sissy Chastity Slut
The beauty of fetishes and kinks is they can all be tailored to suit the person. So what sissification tips work for you will depend on whether you want to explore:
- Low-key feminine qualities you can blend into your vanilla life.
- Extreme feminine stereotypes that suit private play sessions or full sissy slave dynamics.
What follows are practical sissification tips that cover the main feminine transformation topics such as clothing, body language, and makeup.
Each section is split into two:
- Tips that will suit everyday sissification
- Ideas for when you want to hyperfeminize.
Whichever direction you take, you’ll find practical ideas for making your feminine fantasies a reality.
Clothing
Clothing is a powerful tool for changing how we feel about ourselves, and the message we want to communicate to others. So it makes sense to start with some words about wardrobe.
Everyday sissy: Bring sissy-friendly outerwear into your life by wearing clothes labeled unisex or gender neutral. This could mean:
- Finding pants that are a little looser around the leg.
- Looking for fitted tops and jackets.
- Choosing crops or dungarees rather than pants.
- Wearing bold-patterned clothing.
- Choosing softer fabrics such as wool, linens, and fine cotton.
For inspiration, spend time Googling the TV character David Rose from Schitt's Creek. His blend of fashionable, gender-neutral clothes are a great example of how you can bring feminine touches to your wardrobe in a subtle manner.
Now that we’ve covered what others can see, let’s talk about what’s underneath your clothing.
Slipping on a pair of women’s underwear is a simple way to subtly fulfil your feminine desire on a day-to-day basis. Pretty much any style or design is open to you. The only thing to consider is bathroom use. Is anyone likely to catch a glimpse of your underwear, and how will you feel if they do?
Hyperfeminized sissy: The brighter, pinker, and frillier, the better. And anything that can be described as “really cute” has a place in your wardrobe.
If identifying as a sissy slave is part of who you are, you may also want to invest in a traditional black and white maid outfit that is conveniently too short.
Accessorizing
Adding a few accessories can complete an outfit. They can also be a low-key way to soften your look.
Everyday sissy: From jewelry to scarves, bags to pins, there are many subtle ways to accessorize an outfit and bring some femininity to your style.
Your choice of accessory should match your overall look. For example, if you’re wearing pants and a traditional shirt to work, you might show some feminine style by adding:
- A broad-brimmed hat.
- Rings or bracelets.
- A replacement belt buckle.
- Sunglasses or fashion glasses.
- A tote bag or an oversized handbag.
Hyperfeminized sissy: Cute, fluffy, glitzy, and pink are hallmarks of sissy accessories, as are any hats or headbands with animal ears. When you’re out and about, carry your essentials in a micro backpack, clutch, or handbag.
Grooming and Self-Care
How far you take your grooming and self-care routine may depend on the time available, as well as your health and beauty budget.
Everyday sissy: Being clean-shaven around the face is an obvious first step. But you might also think about trimming and shaving other visible facial hair such as nasal and ear hair, and shaping your eyebrows. Thinking about the hair a little lower down, you could remove any chest hair that’s visible when wearing a buttoned shirt.
When it comes to skincare, you may prefer products predominantly aimed at women, as these have a more feminine fragrance. The same might be true when it comes to choosing a perfume. Your subtle feminine touch might be to apply a unisex fragrance.
For daily full-face makeup, choose a natural look. If that’s not an option, keep it simple with eyeliner, mascara, and a neutral lipstick or gloss.
Hyperfeminized sissy: Like women who wax or have laser hair removal, the hyperfem sissy may want to remove all visible hair from their body, including their:
- Face
- Chest
- Torso
- Arms
- Legs
- Bikini Line
Similar to the everyday sissy, the hyperfem may prefer beauty products aimed at women. But when it comes to perfumes they may favor sweeter feminine fragrances with floral, caramel, or exotic fruit notes.
Makeup for the hyperfem should be bold and unapologetic: obvious eye shadows, thicker eyeliner, and fake lashes or extensions to make the eyes stand out.
Hair and Styling
As with clothes, how you style your hair can say a lot about you and what you want the outside world to think. When it comes to sissification there are two main options:
- Go natural.
- Get playful with wigs.
Everyday sissy: Long hair on men isn’t an uncommon sight. And it was only a short time ago that practically everyone rocked a man bun. So growing it out is one option.
But if this isn’t possible, and you need to keep your hair short, choose a style that brings a softness to your overall appearance such as a bowl cut, pixie cut, or side-sweeping fringe.
Hyperfeminized sissy: Natural long hair is an option. However, wigs can offer greater freedom of expression when it comes to style and color. (They can also instantly give you the hairstyle you want if your sissy play is for sessions only.)
Mannerisms and Behaviour
How men and women conduct themselves in public can look and feel very different, both in how they carry themselves and how they interact with others. Everyone should be polite and courteous, of course. But when it comes to civility, socialization and stereotypes have led us to believe these are feminine traits.
Everyday sissy: Subtle sissification tips might be to:
- Cross your legs when seated.
- Place your hands in your lap or on your hip when talking.
- Be mindful of your posture (i.e. don’t slouch).
When talking, you might adopt feminine phrases and find ways of softening what you say to others when in conversation. For example, you may engage more in conversation with people you wouldn’t normally talk to, mind your P’s and Q’s, and readily accept help when it’s needed.
Behaviourally, a simple change you can make is to think about your social choices, such as when you’re out for dinner. You might order food and drinks that are stereotypically more ‘feminine.’
Hyperfeminized sissy: Mannerisms for the hyperfem sissy veer into the sex-obsessed, sissy slut. In this persona, they should be completely subservient to a Dominant who may well view them (and use them) as a sexual object. The hyperfem sissy is also more likely to experiment with voice feminization, a technique predominately explored by those wanting to permanently transition from male to female. But for sissies, some basic voice training they can turn on and off can add to their enjoyment of play.
Activities and Interests
Becoming a sissy and embracing your feminine side might reveal interests you never knew you had, or give you the chance to try things you didn’t feel were possible when you were male all of the time.
Everyday sissy: Rather than playing golf, get your hair and nails done. Instead of going for beers with friends, go for wine.
Staying in for the night? Then let yourself lounge in a bubble bath and enjoy some pamper time rather than taking a fast and functional shower.
Another easy win is to rethink the way you work out. You might consider attending a cardio, spinning, or Zumba class rather than only lifting weights at the gym.
Hyperfeminized sissy: Alongside regular bubble baths and mani-pedis, the hyperfem should focus on exaggerating ‘traditional’ women’s work, such as:
- Housework
- Baking
- Cooking
- Gardening
- Crafts
Finding the Perfect Sissy Chastity Cage
From how you dress and accessorize, to the makeup you wear and activities you indulge in, using these sissy tips for inspiration will bring you closer to embracing a version of femininity that feels most comfortable to you. But as a chastity sissy, there’s one more thing to discuss: your cage.
There are two different styles of sissy chastity cage.
- Ones that focus on the sissy aesthetic.
- Ones that focus on shrinking or hiding the penis.
Cages that adhere to the sissy aesthetic are pink, and made from a softer silicone or resin material. This combination offers a gentle, feminine feel compared to metal cages. One you might want to consider is the Soft Sissy in Pink.
If, however, your idea of feminization involves not having a penis, the cage style you’ll be looking for are nub, small cock cages, flat cock cages, or a chastity fufu clip.
Flat or inverted cock cages do away with the tube section, and simply have a cock ring and metal or resin plate. The plate pushes the penis back into the pelvic area, hiding it from view. For extra femme vibes, some have a surface plate design to mimic female genitalia such as the Golden Clitty Chastity Cage, which has sculpted vaginal lips.
Fufu clips are a little different. Rather than pushing the penis back into the pelvis, they loop around the penis and scrotum to give them the appearance of a vagina. While it’s not a perfect mimic, clips are the closest a man can get to female genitalia without the need for surgery.
If ‘buy a sissy chastity cage’ is next on your ‘become more femme’ to-do list, you can find more ideas and advice for finding the perfect device in the sissy training guide to buying a chastity cage.