Chastity training is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot in the chastity community. But most of the time, it’s just this vague notion that the slave is trained in some way by the Mistress.
There’s often not a lot of talk about how to train a slave or even what you’re training them for.
At Lock the Cock we’re just as guilty of this as anyone else, and recently realized that we’d never really talked in depth about chastity training.
So let’s change that…
Let Mistress Guide You… (Contents)
What Is Chastity Training?
Welcome to problem number one. Our suspicion is that you don’t find a lot of information about slave training because it means a lot of different things to a lot of different people.
So for a complete beginner to the fetish, who could possibly say what kind of training they should be doing, what the point of it is, or if they should bother at all.
With that in mind, our best definition of chastity training is:
“Techniques used by the dominant partner to (in some way) modify the behavior of the submissive partner.”
How this fits into your chastity relationship will depend entirely on your own circumstances, and what you want to get out of the process.
What Is a Slave Training For?
When you train for a marathon or a new job you have an end goal to aim for. So what is the end goal for a chastity slave?
Most commonly, the Mistress will want the slave to behave in a way that is more attentive to her needs, more caring, and more thoughtful. Basically “correcting” the stereotypical problems with the way a man acts.
In a way, this provides the end goal, even if it isn’t as clear as other forms of training.
Some chastity relationships go much further though, with a variety of goals such as:
- Teaching the slave to orgasm without touching his penis.
- Training the slave to take larger and larger anal toys.
- Transforming the slave into a sissy.
- Turning the slave into the perfect domestic maid.
- Giving the slave more and more intense feelings of humiliation.
You might see a little bit of a pattern emerging here. Each of these examples are a style of fetish fantasy: hands free orgasms, anal training, sissification, subservience, humiliation play. None of these fetishes are as simple as “I’m going to give bondage a go today”, which is where the training aspect comes in.
What YOU train for completely depends on your own fetishes and interests (or those of your Mistress).
So Where Does Chastity Come In?
Naturally, the next question is why wearing a chastity cage is necessary for any of this. You can still practice with different anal toys without needing to be chaste, for example.
The answer comes from the very core dynamic of male chastity: dominance and submission.
In a more vanilla relationship, it’s easy for the man to say “I don’t feel like doing that today” and “neglect” his training. In chastity, that’s not an option.
One of the core tenets of male chastity is that the Mistress is in control. So if she decides that you’re working on your sissy training today, then you have two options. Follow her instructions, or face her punishments.
Slaves who do follow their Mistress’s instructions tend to find that there are rewards along the way. Periods of freedom or orgasms being the most common. This makes the training worth the effort in a way that standard “training programs” don’t.
This means that chastity provides the structure for the training to be successful.
Rewards and Punishments in Chastity Training
We’ve talked a lot about how it works, but what would chastity training actually look like?
Let’s go back to our first example. The Mistress wants the slave to be more attentive and caring, and to better satisfy her needs. For our example, we’ll say the Mistress has three distinct behaviors she wants from the slave:
- Taking an equal share of the housework.
- Surprising her with small affectionate gestures.
- Providing her with regular orgasms.
In theory, all of these are quite simple things. But in the chaos of everyday life, it’s easy to forget them. So this couple have decided to try male chastity training to reach their goals.
Early on, many slaves will find that they experience more punishment for getting it wrong than rewards for getting it right. After all, habits are hard to break!
But it doesn’t need to be extreme. He doesn’t need flogging just because he forgot to wash the clothes.
Simply extending his caged period will often be enough to remind him that he’s not sticking to his end of the bargain.
Over time, most slaves will start to pay more attention to their Mistress’s requirements as the desperation for release grows. So they’ll start doing some of the things they’re expected to.
Maybe not well, and maybe not all of them… But they’ll try.
This is where the reward side of things comes into play. If they’ve done a particularly good job this week, and they weren’t supposed to be released from their cage until Sunday, maybe he’s released on Saturday instead.
If he gives Mistress a particularly good orgasm, maybe he’s treated to his favorite: oral sex.
These kinds of techniques are sometimes referred to as positive reinforcement training, or habit loops. Behave well, get reward. Then you want to behave well more often.
For the more extreme demands a Mistress might have, such as anal training or sissification, the rewards and punishments might have to be equally extreme. For example, if the slave lets Mistress penetrate him, maybe he gets to have penetrative sex as his reward.
Does Chastity Training Work?
So, the big question: Does it work?
Well… maybe.
A lot depends on your own relationship and situation, so it’s almost impossible to give a “one size fits all” guide to training a slave.
Some slaves respond well to some rewards, some don’t. Some slaves respond better to punishments than rewards. And some are simply beyond helping, and no matter how many different approaches you take they simply won’t change.
You’ll simply have to try it out and see if it works for you. But… losing access to their penis can be a huge motivator for men.
With the key firmly under Mistress’s control, this isn’t the kind of training program that you can cheat on. With more traditional training methods your reward might be buying a bar of chocolate. You could easily just buy it anyway, and have the reward without the hard work.
But while she’s got the keys, the only way you’re getting your reward is if she lets you.
The desire for sexual pleasure can be so strong that some men even use chastity devices to help them train for things completely unrelated to male chastity like weight loss or giving up smoking.
So even though it might not work for everyone, don’t underestimate the power held in that little key.
Will You Try Chastity Training?
We hope that we’ve demystified chastity training a little more than simply “training your slave”, and given you some ideas on how to get started. We’d love to hear about your results (successful or not) so let us know on social media what worked for you!