Once you get started with chastity, you’ll usually find that you want to wear the cage for longer and longer each time. But how long is too long? Is chastity permanent?
Let’s explore permanent chastity, the different meanings this phrase can have to different men, and some of the challenges you’ll face if you decide to try this kind of lifestyle.
What Is Permanent Male Chastity?
To start with, let’s talk about being permanently locked up and what exactly it is. This might seem strange and extreme. After all, if it’s called “permanent male chastity” then obviously it means being in chastity, indefinitely.
Well… sort of.
To simplify things, it’s usually easier to separate enthusiasts into two groups:
- Men who enjoy 24/7 chastity.
- Men who want to make chastity a permanent part of their lifestyle.
Both of these groups are practicing permanent chastity. But the way they do it can be entirely different.
Permanent (24/7) Chastity
For men who want to be indefinitely locked up, the end goal is to simply never take the cage off again. Once they’re locked, they’re locked.
To achieve this, they’ll constantly be extending the time they stay locked up, going from a week to a month to two months and so on. Sometimes these men won’t even have a Mistress to guide them, and will do it purely because they enjoy it!
If you spend any time frequenting chastity forums or subreddits, then you’ll frequently see men bragging about wearing their cages for even longer time periods. Some even claim to have been locked up for years! But how realistic is this?
To be blunt, we’ll never really know. It’s entirely possible that some men stay locked up for large periods of their lives, but unless you know them personally you’ll never truly know if they mean what they say.
Usually we recommend taking regular periods uncaged to give your penis a chance to rest and recover, and to help you maintain a healthy brain. But if being locked up all the time is your wildest dream, then you do you! Men who manage this though are definitely a small part of the locked up community.
Permanent (Lifestyle) Chastity
The other way to enjoy a permanent chastity device doesn’t involve wearing a device every minute of every day. Instead, you make it an indefinite part of your lifestyle.
What this means is different from slave to slave, so it’s much more achievable than 24/7 caging. It’s also much easier to tailor this kind of chastity contract to your own circumstances, so more men succeed long term with this style of permanent chastity.
How long a man puts on his cock cage in this kind of pledge is completely up to him. Sometimes they might only wear it for play sessions, a couple of hours a day, or just when they’re at home. The point isn’t how long it’s worn, but the fact that they’ve committed to doing it regularly for a long period of time (sometimes the rest of their lives).
Is Permanent Chastity Required?
With so many slaves obsessed with longer and longer lock up periods, it can often seem like the point is always to end up in permanently locked up. But is this true?
Of course not! It’s completely fine to view being locked up as a temporary arrangement to spice up a relationship. Or as a fun kind of kink chastity play that you only engage in occasionally.
Whatever your own views are, the only important question you need to ask yourself is “am I enjoying this?”, and if the answer is “yes” then you’re doing it right!
Challenges of Permanent Chastity
Being a permanent chastity slave isn’t a walk in the park, and it shouldn’t be! One of the main attractions behind being locked up is the suffering and struggle that the slave feels, while the Mistress gets to enjoy herself to her hearts content.
While you’ll face all the same challenges you normally would from a shorter pledge or contract, when you start exploring permanent chastity then there are some specific challenges that you might need to overcome if your pledge is to stand the test of time.
Strangely, the most common reason we see people give up on a long term chastity commitment is simple boredom.
When you’re going through chastity training, and starting to use them more regularly in your bedroom, or wearing them to work for the first time, or any other new idea you think of, it’s exciting. But a lot of this excitement comes from the fact that these are all new, out of the ordinary things.
But when you commit to a longer period, like a month, being locked up becomes kind of… normal. The cock cage is on, but you won’t actually be doing anything with it most of the time. Mistress won’t constantly be teasing you. It’s just another part of your outfit.
Once the excitement wears off and reality sets in, many slaves begin to realize that permanent chastity might not be what they want after all. It’s pretty mundane and boring 90% of the time, and only exciting when they’re actively playing or receiving some form of punishment. So they give up!
If you start to feel like this, it is worth persevering though. The intense feelings of pleasure you get from an orgasm after being caged are even better if you’ve spent longer locked up. The feelings of temptation can become even stronger. Basically everything you love about being locked up is amplified.
Another common problem in male chastity is chafing and skin irritation. You might already experience this with a shorter lock up period, but as you start wearing the cage for longer and longer, this could become more of a problem.
In some cases, you’ll need a different size, design or material. You might have gathered inaccurate measurements for your device and need a different sized ring or tube, but not noticed when you were only wearing the cock cage for a short period. Or, maybe the one you’ve been using isn’t as comfortable after six hours as it was after twenty minutes (this can happen a lot with heavier cages).
If you’re sure it’s not an issue with the device though, the best way to get around this is to make sure you’re regularly cleaning your device and cock. A build up of germs can be a cause of the skin irritation you experience.
Another option is to keep some lubricant with you. Whenever you start to chafe, simply head to the bathroom and apply some additional lubrication to the area.
Speaking of cleaning, hygiene during long-term lock up can be a real issue. Any man will know that after a hard day’s work, the genital region can get quite sweaty and smelly (even without a cock cage). Add in the extra restriction, and it’s a recipe for some rather intense smell.
Aside from upping your cleaning regimen, there’s a few things you can do to combat the permanent chastity cage pong.
Ideally, you should think about this when choosing your device. For long-term wear, most men prefer something lightweight and preferably with a thinner material like silicone chastity cages. You can also choose cages with extra ventilation holes to help keep things cooler.
Another great tip is to keep a pack of cleansing wipes with you. Any time things are starting to get a bit gross, head to the bathroom and give yourself a wipe down. Even if you don’t have the key to fully remove your cage, a little freshen up can sometimes make all the difference.
How to Keep Long-Term Chastity Exciting
The two main points are staying creative and committed.
Involve a Keyholder
It’s incredibly thrilling to involve another party in your chaste experience. They can be anyone - your partner, a professional, or even Mistress X. Becoming a sissy under someone else’s control, and the unpredictability really adds to the excitement. They can devise games and tasks to keep you on your toes. And don’t forget, they’re there to provide support and ensure you’re keeping to your pledge.
Try Anal-Only Chastity
Craving something more…Intense? Explore BDSM while still maintaining chastity. Use a buttplug and be reminded of your sissy status. It can be especially teasing as it brings you closer to the edge without being allowed to cum. And when it’s finally permitted? Now that’s intense.
Consider some discipline for some extreme excitement. Maybe you spoke when you weren’t supposed to, didn’t follow your keyholder’s instructions, or just displeased them in some way. The punishments can be tailored between you and the keyholder - for instance, you could be forced into chastity for a longer period without any breaks, or your keyholder could use tease and denial techniques.
And for those solo - you can use self-discipline. You could trick yourself into a longer lock up time using randomized devices or software. Self-imposed punishments keep your experience intense - and you don’t need another person to do them.
Effects of Permanent Chastity
Like any major change to your lifestyle, embarking on this chastity pledge can have some effects on many aspects of your life. Don’t worry though, they aren’t all negatives. Some effects can even provide benefits in other parts of your life!
Penis Shrinkage/ Chastity Shrinkage
For some slaves, chastity downsizing and getting rid of their cock is a dream. While wearing a male chastity device won’t completely remove it, you can experience a level of chastity shrinkage while wearing one. This is usually just a result of less blood flowing through the penis (because you’re having less erections).
If shrinkage is an aspect of chastity you enjoy, you can keep pushing for a smaller cock by gradually downsizing your device and bringing on chastity shrinkage. Eventually, you might even fit in a nub!
For men who aren’t really interested in this aspect of permanent chastity, or even see it as a downside, don’t worry. The effect isn’t forever. Simply spending some time uncaged should be enough for your penis to return to it’s original size.
Training For Extended Chastity
The best advice for an absolute beginner is to allow your body to adapt by gradually increasing the duration you are locked up for.
It helps to discuss your feelings, frustrations and desires openly to provide some encouragement. In a femdom dynamic, they can offer a lot of support and motivation. If you are doing this solo - use social platforms to help you keep focused.
Another thing to note is to establish a daily routine around cleaning and inspections. By providing structure, a supportive routine can aid in dealing with any discomfort or urges during the training period.
And don’t forget, there are other forms of sexual expression. This can include anal, non-penetrative activities or focusing on the pleasure of your Mistress.
Don’t let yourself be discouraged by setbacks. They’re natural and part of any process. Be patient, and view them as opportunities to grow.
The last piece of advice is to celebrate every milestone. A week or a month - acknowledge your time locked up and celebrate how far you’ve come. You deserve praise - and who knows - maybe Mistress will surprise you with an early release!
Any level of chastity pledge can provide many benefits to your relationship, but being permanently locked up can take this much further.
Handing over the keys to a chastity keyholder for your cock in a Female Led Relationship (FLR) is a great act of trust, and you need to be sure your partner won’t take advantage of your newfound vulnerability. But they also need to make sure their slave’s needs are being met so he can remain happy and healthy.
What this means is that over time, your trust, understanding and empathy towards each other will grow. You relationship will become stronger.
It might seem strange, but locking away your cock can also bring a ton of sexual benefits too!
For the slave’s partner, the benefits can become obvious very quickly. Now that he’s no longer distracted by his own penis, he can focus solely on your pleasure. For men who aren’t great at pleasuring their partner, this is a great way to teach them what works, and what doesn’t, and will lead to much more satisfaction for the Mistress.
But what about the poor slave? Well, he’s not going to be orgasmless for the rest of his life. And when his long awaited freedom does finally come the feeling can be truly euphoric. That’s right, sex is still an important part of chastity even for the locked up partner!
The sex might not be quite the same as in a more vanilla relationship, but rewarding the slave (on occasion) can give you some of the best nights of your life. He’ll also have a goal to work towards that’s more than just a time period. If he knows he’ll get a great orgasm if he sticks to his pledge for a month, he’s much more likely to succeed.
To put it simply, all the sexual feelings build up over time and become stronger and stronger. That makes the release much better! It’s really that simple.
Don’t Be Afraid to Make Your Pledge Permanent
Permanent chastity might sound scary, but it’s not! We hope we’ve taken some of the mystery out of the subject, and you feel more encouraged to try and incorporate a more indefinite commitment into your relationship.