What Is Locktober? Make It Yours
Locktober started in online kink circles in the 2010s and grew as more men tried month-long chastity for focus, tension, and relationship play. There isn’t one “right” way - pick a level, write simple rules, and run it through October.
Your Locktober Plan
Ways To Play
- Solo (self-lock): simple rules and one daily proof-of-lock (e.g., timestamped photo or sealed code like “LTC-9731” in a signed, dated envelope).
- Partnered (Keyholder-led): agree on check-ins, unlock windows, and orgasm policy once up front. Hand your partner this one-time read: partner starter guide.
- Community/coaching: neutral accountability with short scheduled reviews.
Locktober Levels
- Light (starter): 12-24 hour stints; showers/sport unlocks; 0-1 orgasm per week or ruined-only; one quick daily check-in.
- Steady (committed): 3-7 day runs; one maintenance unlock per week; either no orgasms until Oct 31 or one scheduled release; fixed daily check-in.
- Immersive (31-day focus): near-continuous wear with only written exceptions; release = none or one on Day 31; end-of-month debrief to keep what works.
Your Role this Locktober
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Service sub (chaste husband):
- Morning check-in and evening proof-of-lock.
- Permissioned touch only; bedtime no-hands rule.
- Service tasks that actually help her: dishes, laundry, errands, car wash, calendar admin.
- Care and comfort: foot rubs, back massage, bring her tea or coffee the way she likes it.
- Home upgrades: fix one small thing each week she chooses.
- Date leadership she prefers: book the restaurant she wants, handle logistics, arrive early.
- Grooming and hygiene standards kept neat; quick post-sweat clean and relube.
- Edging on assigned days; ruined-only unless she says otherwise.
- Gratitude notes: one short, specific appreciation each day.
- Weekly act-of-service chosen by her (non-negotiable, time-boxed).
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Sub Online Keyholder:
- Daily proof-of-lock via timestamped photo or short video; include a unique code word or gesture she sets each day.
- Sealed-code backup for emergencies (e.g., “LTC-9731”) with an agreed unlock procedure and immediate relock plan.
- Time-boxed chore or fitness blocks delivered by DM (e.g., 20-minute tidy); send a quick completion photo.
- Scheduled tease/edging assignments on certain days; ruined-only unless she changes policy.
- End-of-day recap: 2-3 bullet points (fit status, tasks done, mood).
- Switch: schedule one Day of Dominance during an unlock, set a clear flip signal, and note who controls orgasm policy. For context, see Chastity & the Not-So-Submissive Man.
Rules this Locktober
Policy Examples
- Focus and energy: set porn-free blocks and maker hours while locked; jot quick notes on sleep, workouts, and attention. Bigger picture: benefits of male chastity.
- Partner-first: service earns attention; Keyholder controls release; ruined-only or end-date release keeps the spotlight on her.
- Erotic tension: plan edging days versus blackout days to keep desire high.
Exceptions Policy
- Allowed: hygiene, contact sports, medical or first aid, security checks.
- Procedure: notify or log - unlock - complete task - dry/lube - relock immediately (target 10-15 minutes) - quick proof.
- No penalty when followed; renegotiate if frequency creeps up.
Rewards
- Date-night choice, a short unlock, focused attention, or extra teasing. Keep a simple menu everyone understands.
Accountability & Micro-Contract
Accountability
- Self-lockers: one uneditable daily note or timestamped photo: “locked + clean.”
- Partnered: fixed-time proof-of-lock and a short “I need out” phrase for emergencies; Keyholder can accept, reshape, or decline the invite.
Micro-Contract (copy-fill)
- Dates: “Oct 1-31; unlocks only for written exceptions. Exceptions are not failures.”
- Keys: “Keyholder = ____ / or sealed self-code ____.”
- Orgasm policy: “None - ruined-only - or scheduled by Keyholder.”
- Check-in: “Daily at __:__ with quick proof.”
- Pause/resume: “If red-flag symptoms or bad headspace: unlock, talk, resume only when both agree.”
Weekly tune-up tip: set a recurring calendar reminder for a 10-minute rule review every 7 days.
Health is more important than the kink
If you notice discoloration, numbness, persistent pain, or swelling, unlock now and only relock when everything is clearly back to normal.
Gear That Goes the Distance
Choose comfort, hygiene, and discretion if important.
Criteria Checklist
- Lightweight silicone or plastic to reduce tugging.
- Built-in cylindrical lock for a lower profile.
- Good ventilation and quick drying.
- Discreet look; clear shells are low-notice in quick glances.
- Support wear (briefs or a jock) to keep the device stable.
- Spare ring or spacer kit in your size range for quick swaps.
Fit Sanity Checks
- Movement finds the cage: add support; consider a smaller ring.
- Chafe after sweat: wash, dry fully, re-lube; open tubes dry faster.
- Visibility anxiety: darker layers or shower trunks; low-profile hardware helps.
Hygiene Essentials
- After sweat: wash with mild soap, rinse, pat dry, re-lube contact points.
- Every 2-3 days: deeper clean; let the device dry completely.
- Weekly: fit review; swap ring or add support if movement increases.
- Trim hair in contact areas; use silicone-safe lube (avoid petroleum).
Why Criteria Beat SKUs
The right cage is the one you wear comfortably on Day 1 and still want on Day 31. For examples that match these specs, see the exercise-oriented fit guide.
Dialed-in gear makes Locktober doable. If you’re wondering why so many are jumping in now, the numbers below explain it.
Male Chastity Is Crowned 2025’s Fetish of the Year
Male chastity and the wearing of cock cages have been awarded the tits of 2025’s fetish of the year.
It’s not a headline we expected to see, but it’s certainly a welcome one. And the accolade landed thanks to online video and clip platform Clips4Sale, revealing:
- A 71% increase in sales of chastity content in the last 12 months.
- A 193% growth rate since 2020.
Male chastity is hot right now, people. And it seems the cock is out of the cage (so to speak) regarding the benefits of male chastity.
Should we be surprised? Probably not, given the amount of (some great, some not so great) chastity-related chat in the world right now.
Chastity’s Popularity Has Been Rising for a While
Signs from the last few years may explain why chastity content has taken off.
Online Searches and Resulting Product Sales
A quick look at Google Trends, reveals that searches for the term ‘chastity cage’ leapt up in 2022 and 2023, with the UK, Canada, US, Czech Republic, and Australia leading the way in cock cage play.
According to the same data, Japan, Turkey, and several South American countries are yet to discover the delights of our fetish. But maybe they soon will, thanks to this accolade.
Now, despite my love for things that grow upward and stronger over time, I’m equal parts intrigued and unnerved to say that graphs and sales stats aren’t the only reasons for male chastity’s entry into the fabulous fetish hall of fame. Generational change, global shifts in how humans think about and practice sex and increased media exposure may all be playing their part.
Cultural Shifts With Chaste Overtones and Messaging
For starters, there’s Gen Z’s purported dwindling interest in sex, coupled with the rise of conservative ideologies and rollbacks in reproductive rights. While in South Korea, the sex-striking 4B movement encouraging women to withhold sex, has gained global interest and sparked similar movements in other countries.
Pop Culture and Media Coverage
On the other hand, mainstream media outlets are more willing to feature the lifestyle. For example, the 2021 story of cock cages being hacked received widespread coverage. As did the fitness bros who misunderstood the meaning of Locktober. (Oops!) In addition, shows like Californication and Big Mouth, include storylines that allude to the caged lifestyle.
Admittedly, the people involved in these movements or shows may not be actively promoting the wearing of cock cages or adopting the lifestyle. But their activities stimulate curiosity and increase awareness. They bring the concepts of male chastity into the collective consciousness. As a result, people reframe how they think and feel about sex, pleasure, orgasms, and how they give and receive them.
(Which sounds very familiar, don’t you think?)
Avery Martin from Clips4Sale, is thinking along the same lines.
“With so much anxiety around sexuality, it can bring relief to have someone or something, whether a Domme or a cage, that denies you the ability to get off,” he explained. But even if there’s less interest in having sex, there’s still an interest in exploring pleasure and gratification.
“We may be in an anti-pleasure timeline, but that doesn’t mean it needs to be joyless or sexless,” Martin added. Cue cock cages. And, as Martin rightly says, “There’s freedom in restraint, denial and humiliation—so long as it's enjoyable, self-aware and consensual.”
If Cock Cages Went Mainstream
Let’s fantasize for a moment that our fun little fetish is about to blow up big time. What exactly might that look like? Here’s how we envision it.
Cages Would Be Stocked in Target
In 2012, Target and Walmart caused an absolute furore when they started stocking personal lubricants and vibrators. Can you imagine what would happen when a range of Sevanda cages rock up next to the briefs?
They’d Get a Female-Friendly Rebrand
‘Cock cage’ is just such a masculine phrase. For cages to gain cred (and sales) on female-led sexual wellness sites, like Goop, they’d need a rebrand. Perhaps Intimate Female Empowerment Devices (iFEDs) could work? ‘A 3-in-1 experience: Release your inner power, experience total yoni freedom, and quell his overt desires.’ (Or some such marketing crap.)
We’d Have an Exclusive Cock Cage Emoji
Combinations of the current padlock and key emojis are fine. But wouldn’t it be hella nice if we had our very own? A simple cage design with padlock, available in chrome, pink, and black would be perfect. For something less obvious? Perhaps an aubergine with a padlock dangling off it? Or a cockerel in a cage?
Influencers Would Post About It
The likes of Kim Kardashian, Cristiano Ronaldo, and Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson would endorse cage brands. Or even model them. (Which would really test the standards of those social media community guidelines.)
Tay-Tay Would Write a Chart-Topping Chastity Song
I can hear it now. Remixed and re-released with catchy titles such as Can’t Shake It Off and You Need to Come Now. (If you see this Taylor, you may have them. You’re welcome.)
More People Buy the T-Shirt
And wear the t-shirt. We’ve got a whole merch range waiting for the masses.
It’d Show Up in a James Bond Movie
Aston Martin, Martini, Omega, Holy Trainer. Oh yes, I’d love to see one of pop culture’s greatest Lotharios in a cock cage.
Fun to Think About. But Would It Be Good in Real Life?
Imagining cock cages cropping up in the mainstream is a giggle. And there would certainly be some positives. But things that get rapid, massive mainstream culture exposure can also get torn apart. Especially fringe and sub-culture ideas. I guess there are pros and cons to everything.
Pro: More discussion and greater acceptance. More people talking openly about the benefits of cock cages and female led relationships will bring greater acceptance. We saw this happen during the 50 Shades of Grey craze.
Whatever you think about the book and its portrayal of BDSM relationships, it undeniably got people talking. The wider community wanted to speak to people living the lifestyles. And this gave those communities a voice and an opportunity to educate, which ultimately benefited the community.
Pro: It could encourage innovation and design. If cock cages became popular, they’d be more profitable. Sex toy designers—or even non-industry product designers—may feel inclined to create new products, giving us more choices and more cages to play with.
Con: It could dilute the community. Trends attract people who want to jump on the bandwagon. These people may think they want to try chastity, but really they’re in it to look fashionable rather than being genuinely interested. An influx of people who flit in and out of the fetish like this could make it harder for those with a genuine interest to find each other and connect.
Con: The fetish would be subject to greater scrutiny. This is the flipside of more exposure. Not all discussions would be constructive or positive. Like so many fetishes, male chastity would be examined, talked about, and judged or speculated on by more people. It may even trigger moral panic, leading to laws and restrictions.
But hey, let’s not end on a downer. These are only ‘what ifs.’
What Do You Think?
If 2025 really is to be our year, how does that make you feel about your favorite fetish? Will you embrace the accolade or would you prefer that this level of recognition hadn’t landed on our doorstep? Add your thoughts to our to the discussion on Instagram.
